You’re not even sure if you want to hit your partner or just run away from them. You love them and hate them.

How could they do this to me?

Does our relationship mean nothing to them?

Was he even thinking of me when he was with her?

Has our entire relationship been one big lie?

Part of you wants to know every detail; another part knows that it would hurt too much- like death by a thousand cuts.

Does it matter where they had sex? Do you really want to know if she came? Did she tell him that she loved him?

You have a million questions, but are you asking the right ones?

“You don’t deserve to put up with this shit!”

They don’t understand why even part of you wants to stay.

“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

The fact is, they aren’t helping. They mean well, and they care… but they are not helpful for you.

You haven’t yet decided if you’re willing to throw it all away- this life that you’ve built together. You certainly can’t just “move on,” but you don’t know what to do.

Can your marriage be saved?

You need someone who knows affairs inside and out- someone who’s not afraid to ask the tough questions.

I won’t skirt around the issue, and I’ll help you and your partner uncover the meaning behind the affair.

Only then can you determine when and how to move on.

Not only is healing possible, but you can have an even better relationship with your partner after affair recovery.

They work on things like communication skills and teaching the couple to “fight better.”

They completely miss the potential for relationship evolution that is brought about by diving deep into the infidelity itself.

An affair can be the catalyst that brings a couple closer together than they had ever been before.