Can You Keep a Secret?
John and Amy were having difficulty in their marriage. They were fighting a lot and had little sex or intimacy. They felt like they were drifting apart. Amy suggested that the two of them see a couples counselor. John begrudgingly agreed. In the first session, the...
Why Do I Work with Infidelity?
When colleagues ask me what I do, I get a handful of reactions: “Wow. That must be really interesting (their code for difficult),” “I could never do that,” “Why did you choose to work with infidelity?” I love the why question. Not only because they are showing an...
Defining Infidelity: Sexual Alchemy
In this last of the four-part series on defining infidelity, I want to share with you the third common component in affairs- sexual alchemy. What is sexual alchemy? Sexual alchemy is the term that Esther Perel uses to describe the erotic nature of affairs. The term is...
Defining Infidelity: Emotional Involvement
As we continue our conversation about “What is infidelity?”, we arrive at the next common component of betrayal- emotional involvement. Whether it’s admitted or not, most affairs register an emotional response to some degree or another. At the extreme end of the...
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