Defining Infidelity: Sexual Alchemy

Defining Infidelity: Sexual Alchemy

In this last of the four-part series on defining infidelity, I want to share with you the third common component in affairs- sexual alchemy. What is sexual alchemy? Sexual alchemy is the term that Esther Perel uses to describe the erotic nature of affairs. The term is...
Defining Infidelity: Secrecy

Defining Infidelity: Secrecy

Last week, I began to answer the question, “What is infidelity?” This week, we’re taking a deeper look at the first component of an affair: Secrecy. As Esther Perel says, “Secrecy is the number one organizing principle of an affair.” An affair resides in...
What is Infidelity?

What is Infidelity?

What is Infidelity Anyway? People wonder, “How many couples are affected by infidelity?”  Depends on what you consider infidelity… Is chatting with an attractive coworker cheating? What about texting an ex? Kissing? Flirting? Sexting? Watching porn?...

D is for Defensiveness

They say that sometimes the best offense is a good defense. Some people adhere to this rhetoric in their relationships by enlisting the help of the third Horseman of the Apocalypse- Defensiveness.  Defensiveness is simply defined as the act of protecting oneself from...