Discernment Counseling in DallasGain Clarity and Confidence
Ambivalence is hard to handle.
The thought of getting a divorce has been weighing on you for some time, but still you wonder, “Am I making the right choice?”
It’s not unusual that people wrestle with the decision for years, so you’re not alone.
Maybe you don’t want to be the one who ends the marriage- to be the “bad guy.”
The truth is that you’ve been unhappy for a really long time, and no amount of begging, pleading, crying, fighting has seemed to make any difference.
You’ve watched others who were in your same shoes- maybe even your own parents- who decided to stay together but were miserable. And you’re certain you don’t want that.
You’re so tired of feeling this way, of crying in the car or in the shower, having the desire to leave but feeling like a monster for entertaining the thoughts.
You don’t enjoy your partner’s company. You no longer feel attracted to them. You just look at them and feel drained.
“Is this what the rest of my life is going to be like?”
“Is this it for me, for us?”
You have thought about the impact this will have on those around you, and you know that this isn’t a decision to rush into.
But how long can you remain stuck in divorce indecision?
The fear can be overpowering.
You feel like you have three options: marriage counseling, divorce, or stay in this hell.
The last option is off the table; you know something has to change.
But do you really want to go to marriage counseling? Will it even help?
The last thing you want is to waste 6 months and several thousand dollars to find out that it won’t work after all.
Maybe you’ve even tried couples counseling before. If you’re here, it obviously didn’t help or didn’t last for long.
If you go that route again, you want to know that it’ll make a difference this time.
You want to be happy- you’re just not sure what that means.
Can you be happy and married? Or will divorce be the route to happiness for you?
You want to take a step forward- one way or the other rather than being stuck.
You long to have confidence and clarity in the direction of your marriage.
Discernment counseling can help.
Discernment counseling is a unique process developed specifically to help couples who are at the crossroads of divorce.
It’s for couples who want to take one last hard look at their marriage before making a decision- either committing to saving the relationship or moving forward toward separation or divorce.
Discernment counseling helps couples gain an understanding about what has happened in their marriage that has brought it to this point as well as help them decide whether those issues can be fixed.
Because you and your partner are likely coming from two different places- one wanting to save the marriage, the other leaning out- the conversations for each of you are unique.
Unlike traditional marriage counseling, the majority of your time will be spent in 1 on 1 conversations with the therapist.
Our objective isn’t to fix the problems in your marriage but to help each of you better understand them as well as how each of you may have contributed to them.
Discernment counseling is brief- 1 to 5 sessions.
You’ve likely been struggling with the decision whether to divorce for a lot longer than it would take for you to finally gain confidence and clarity about your marriage through this process.
There is no pressure from the therapist whether to stay married or not; this is your decision alone.
Discernment counseling is a decision-making process, and you won’t be pushed one way or the other.
The only failure in discernment counseling is if you don’t learn something about yourself and your relationship.
So don’t stay stuck in divorce indecision. Book your free 30 minute consultation today.