Finding the right marriage counselor can be exhausting.
Heck, even just finding someone who specializes in marriage counseling and doesn’t just do all the things can be a challenge.
I get it. And that’s why I have created this page to help you determine quickly whether I’m a good fit for you.
See, I know that you and I have at least one thing in common: neither of us wants to waste your time.
This may not be the first about page that you’ve read. You may have been scouring the internet for hours looking for someone to help you.
You’ve been to countless outdated websites and read the most generic profiles. You won’t find that here.
By the time you get to the end of this page, I hope that you have found clarity as to whether you’d like to schedule a call with me.
If you don’t feel like we’re a good fit, you can move on to one of the other thousands of therapists in Dallas.
This is where most therapists start talking about themselves…
“I have 247 years of experience…”
“I’m certified in CBT and DOG therapy…”
“I graduated from Bla Bla University…”
“I provide a safe, nonjudgmental environment for my clients…”
That last one slays me. What does that even mean?
I’ll get to my education and experience in a moment, but first I want to talk to you- words on a screen to person viewing this web page.
I know why you’re here.
You’re not here to learn about my credentials (though they are important). You’re here to find out if I can help you.
You’re not just looking for a marriage counselor in Dallas, you’re looking for a marriage counselor in Dallas who gets you.
One who can help you and your partner sort through the shit that has driven a wedge between you.
You’re looking for someone who can teach you and your partner how to communicate more effectively- beyond just using “I” statements…
You want to know if I can help you end the vicious cycle of negativity that you and your partner seem to be drowning in.
You want to know if I can help you and your partner move beyond the pain of infidelity and resurrect your marriage from the ashes.
You want to know if I can help you decide whether to end your relationship or give it one last all-out-effort to change it.
And I can help you with all of these things and more… if you’re willing to do the work.
If you’re here hoping for some miracle fix-all, keep looking.
If you’re hoping that I can change your partner and not do any work on yourself, go see someone else.
If this is an attempt to say “we tried” but you’re not really going to try, you can take that crap elsewhere.
I only work with clients and couples who are motivated to change.
Now that’s not to say that your partner isn’t more dysfunctional and things will be 50/50, but I haven’t met a couple yet where one partner was completely without blame.
And that’s one thing that sets me apart from many other marriage counselors- I take sides.
If you’re acting out and damaging your relationship, I’m going to call you out.
The couples that I work with appreciate my straight-forward, no bull shit approach.
(I think that’s the second time I’ve said, “shit” now, so yes, I occasionally cuss. If that offends you, let me know (though that likely means we’re not a good fit). Until then, I talk like you do.)
How else am I not like other marriage counselors? Here are a few ways:
Most therapists help one partner come up from shame. I’m just as interested in knocking partners off their high horse.
I won’t just call out your bad behavior, I will give you the tools you need to transform your interactions and restore health to your relationship.
Even though my clients help pay my mortgage and feed my family, I don’t want you to stay in therapy forever. I believe in helping my clients achieve swift and lasting change. Therapy with me is intense, and those that can learn quickly will get results quickly.
Though our primary focus is on the relationship, there are times when I do individual work with a client in session. Sometimes we need to address issues that are permutations of your past in order to move forward.
As strange as it may sound for a marriage counselor like myself to say, I am not the expert. Sure, I have knowledge and expertise, but I’m on this journey with you. The reason I know the skills that I’m teaching you work is because they continue to work in my own marriage (but I still have bad days in which I forget absolutely everything that I know works and screw up royally…)
I teach my couples through stories. Sometimes they are the stories of other clients (without revealing their identity) or from books; sometimes it’s my own stories.
I believe that we are all in this together, and I am learning alongside you.
Now for the technical stuff that I know you’ve just been dying to know.
I first went to college when I was 16 through a program at the University of North Texas called the Texas Academy of Mathematics and Science.
I continued my undergraduate work at Texas Tech University where I completed my degree in psychology. Get your guns up!
I returned to school a few years later and completed my Master’s Degree in Professional Counseling at Amberton University.
I am licensed in the state of Texas as a Licensed Professional Counselor- 71799.
I have built my private practice around serving couples in the area as well as throughout Texas, and my mission is to end unnecessary divorces.
I have trained under Terry Real in Relational Life Therapy as well as completed some training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I am trained in discernment counseling which is a process for helping couples decide whether to work on their marriage or move toward separation or divorce.
I am also trained in collaborative divorce and serve in the role as a neutral mental health professional during this process.
Now that we got the boring stuff out of the way, here’s some personal information about me.
My wife and I have been married for 12 years, and we have 4 amazing daughters all under the age of 8.
No. I don’t wish I had a boy. The girls are enough to keep me busy. Thank you.
In my spare time (laughs to self then begins to sob quietly), I enjoy playing video games and reading.
I’m a gamer and a nerd. No shame about it. I speak fluent geek and empathy.
The truth is you won’t find another therapist like me. (If you do, I’d really want to meet them.)
I hope I have accomplished what I set out to do on this page.
If you’re still here, perhaps you’d like to schedule your free 30 minute consultation.
Even if you do just want to chat about gaming or the latest book I’ve read, that’s cool too.