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Marriage Counseling in Dallas For Affair Recovery
You have never felt so devastated in your life.
The rollercoaster of emotions has been so intense. The ups and downs, twists and turns. You feel torn in two. Your gut is telling you to RUN. You’ve never felt so confused and uncertain. Should I stay or should I go? Should I run away or turn and fight? Your partner had an affair. Is it too late for marriage counseling?
Before the day you found out they were cheating, you were suspicious. You had a gut feeling that something wasn’t right. You found yourself feeling concerned, more suspicious as the hours ticked by. It was the way your partner seemed to hide their phone from you. Or how they suddenly had to step out of the room when it rang. Maybe, they started suddenly having to stay at work later than normal.
Or, maybe there wasn’t anything in particular, but over time your intuition was screaming that something was wrong. You weren’t sure, but something seemed off. You told yourself that you were just being paranoid. You reassured yourself that your partner wouldn’t betray you. But the feeling persisted.
Then you found it. The evidence that confirmed your suspicion, your deepest fears. Your partner was unfaithful. BOOM. Your entire world came crashing down. You felt crushed, shocked. You wondered, “how could I not have known?” “How could I have been so stupid?”
You’ve never felt anything like this before. You never knew that you could endure so much pain… and you’re still not sure if you can. Now you’re left sifting through the rubble, trying to pick up the pieces of a broken marriage.
But how can you help rebuild what your partner alone destroyed?
You knew your relationship wasn’t great. Maybe you even suggested going to marriage counseling or working with a couple stherapist. And sure, over time the romance faded and with it your sex life. Shit happens. Life happens. Even the best marriages go through tough times.
But miserable marriages don’t cause infidelity. After all, you were there, and you were faithful.
Or, maybe you believed that you and your partner had it figured out. You thought you had a successful and fulfilling marriage. Only to find out that even your marriage wasn’t “affair-proof.” No matter the circumstances, I want you to know that the affair was not your fault.
The affair was your partner’s choice
You’ve lost so much already. You feel like your entire relationship was a lie. You wonder if your relationship is doomed. There is so much anger and disgust. Part of you wants to just focus on yourself and start again with someone else. You want a clean slate.
And yet, part of you wants to fight. There are so many precious memories, so many loving feelings. You wonder if your relationship can rise from the ashes, stronger than before?
The feelings that you have about your partner’s infidelity are normal.
You want your partner to understand the pain they have caused you. They need to be held accountable. But, you’re not sure how they can ever make things right between you. You need your partner to understand your emotions and see the effect the affair has had on you. You need them to be able to comfort and hold you in your pain, not shy away from it and hide in their own shame. You want them to understand that no matter how long it has been since you found out, you may still have bad days. Days when the thoughts come flooding back. Days when you question everything.
Your partner has to learn to live with the consequences of their affair.
Just as you had to suddenly learn to live with the heavy and unexpected weight of their infidelity, your partner has to learn how to help you shoulder that weight. I can’t say that it will be easy. In fact, it may be the most challenging thing you both have ever done.
There may still be times when every fiber of your being is screaming, “RUN!”
How can marriage counseling help?
When I work with couples facing the devastation of an affair, it’s important that we act quickly.
It’s a difficult time, and you need to find relief from the devastation fast. You’re not yet sure if your marriage will survive, and you’d like to find out sooner rather than later.
The good news is that couples counseling can help. The three of us will work together to figure this whole mess out.
It may seem difficult to impossible now, but affair recovery is possible. And I can help.
Begin Marriage Counseling for Affair Revovery in Dallas, Texas
You’ve been hurt. You’re not sure if your marriage is repairable. But, marriage counseling can help you cope with the fallout of infidelity. To begin marriage counseling at my counseling clinic in Dallas Texas, follow these three simple steps:
- Call or email my office to schedule your free 30-minute consultation,
- Schedule your initial appointment with me,
- Begin couples therapy and re-build your relationship with your partner.
Other Marriage Counseling Services Offered at Mindful Life Counseling:
In addition to counseling for affair recovery, I offer a variety of relationship therapy services at my Dallas, Texas counseling center. My marriage counseling services include traditional in-person marriage counseling, online marriage counseling, relationship support for new parents, and divorce discernment counseling. Additionally, I have written several articles on marriage therapy that are available on my blog. For more information, please contact my office.