New parent counseling in dallas
“The greatest gift you can give your child is a strong relationship between the two of you.” –Dr. John Gottman
Counseling for new and expectant parents
There’s a reason newborns don’t come with return policies…
When you first found out you were expecting, you were bursting at the seams. You couldn’t wait to tell you family, friends, coworkers, and even that random stranger in the checkout lane at the grocery store.
You toured the hospital and attended all the birth preparation classes. You read every book, magazine, and blog post. You had such high hope for parenthood.
But nothing seems to have actually prepared you and your partner for when you brought your baby home.
You and your partner are exhausted and tension has been rising.
You both feel unheard and unappreciated.
What happened to your best friend- the one you agreed to go on this journey of parenthood with? You feel disconnected and resentful at times, and you don’t like it.
2/3 of couples struggle
Research has shown that a full 67% of couples experience a significant decline in relationship satisfaction after they have a child.
Unfortunately, it’s super normal to feel this way after you become parents. It’s unfortunate that it’s normal because it doesn’t have to be.
how can relationship counseling help?
Relationship counseling can help you and your partner bolster the bond between the two of you.
With a renewed sense of connection and togetherness, you’ll be able to handle whatever life or your infant throws at you. When you’re better connected, you will be better partners and better parents.
What you’ll learn through relationship counseling
Over time, you’ll discover new, more effective ways to have difficult conversations- whether it’s about money, sex, the in-laws, or children. You’ll be able to talk in a way that leads you both to feeling heard and understood.
You’ll begin to understand the negative cycles that the two of you get stuck in. You’ll discover how the ways in which you react and respond to each other influence the other person’s response leading to a negative dance in which you’re both left feeling hurt and unheard.
Together, we’ll stop these negative patterns and develop new ones. I’m not suggesting that breaking these negative cycles will be easy. After all, most couples stuggle for many years before walking through my door.
But within just a few short months you can see significant improvement in your relationship.
That’s because you’ll learn that your partner isn’t just trying to be a jerk. In fact, the reason they “nag” or shut down is actually because they do care. Crazy, right?
Imagine being able to talk to your partner without it turning into a big fight. Imagine talking to each other in a loving way even when you disagree and even when you’re both exhausted. Imagine knowing that no matter what is said (or unsaid) in your relationship, that you know without a doubt that your partner loves and respects you.
It’s not just a daydream. It can be your reality.
I’m ready when you are! Your restored marriage is right around the corner.
What If My Partner Won't Go To Counseling?
It's not uncommon for one partner to be more reluctant or even simply refuse to attend counseling. If this is the case, I typically advise partners to approach the topic in a positive way.
Partners may get the signal that they are defective or that there is something wrong with them when you say, "Honey, I think we need to see a marriage therapist."
Instead, tell your partner how important your relationship with them is and how you would like to explore ways to make it even better. If your partner is still reluctant, they are more than welcome to schedule a consultation with me to discuss it further.
It's free, and we can explore some of the common barriers and misconceptions people have about marriage counseling.
Shouldn't We Be Able to Figure This Out On Our Own?
If you're here, the answer to that is likely 'no'. It's also likely that you have tried to fix your marriage on your own. And if you got a manual for love when you got married, I'd love to get a copy.
The advice you often get is learning about how to communicate better or compromise. It's about learning to be nicer to each other or how to 'fight better'... If that's all marriage is about, then more people would probably elect to never get married. After all, I could compromise with and be nice to my college roommates...
As Sue Johnson says, "Love is not a psychotic mix of sex and sentiment..." It's so much more than that. Yet, it's simple really. Once you know that love is all about bonding on an emotional level with another human being, you can understand it. Love is a survival instinct that tells us to keep those we love and trust close by.
By knowing what love is, we can mold and shape it. It gives us a map to intimate relationships that we've never had before.
But We've Tried Couples Counseling Before...
Oh man, if I had a dollar...
70-80% of therapists say that they work with couples. Very few of them have specialized training to do so. They mean well, and some of them are helpful to an extent.
But if you really want to level up your relationship, you need an expert. You need someone with a map and a compass.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy provides me with said map. I know the destination, and more importantly, I know how to help you get there.
I've Heard Couples Counseling is Expensive...
Depends on what you consider expensive. I think Starbucks coffee is expensive (and I don't even drink coffee).
Yes, couples therapy is an investment in yourself and in your relationship. If we are talking business terms, it has an incredible ROI.
Struggling with your most intimate relationship is toxic to your health. If you and your partner are unsatisfied with your marriage, you're more likely to be sick and feel the effects of stress more intensely.
I could go on about the benefits of therapy, but I'll highlight just one- you're less likely to get divorced.
10 sessions of therapy will cost you about $2500. A divorce will cost you about $15,000; not to mention the emotional turmoil for everyone involved. How's that for preventive care?
This Sounds Great, But We Just Don't Have the Time...
If you allow your schedule to interfere with your ability to improve your relationship, I have bad news for you.
Not to mention that I currently offer evening and even Saturday appointments. You can schedule your appointments online 24 hours a day without having to worry about playing phone tag.
Stop making excuses and schedule your consultation today by using the link below.