Sexless Marriage in dallas
“Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions.” -Deepak Chopra
Counseling to improve intimacy
You long to feel desired and loved by your partner.
You’re not sure why it’s missing, but it is. There is a lack of intimacy in your relationship with your partner. Maybe it burned out slowly, and one day you looked up and realized that it had been a few months, maybe even longer, since the last time you had sex.
You try to bring it up with your partner, but talking about it seems to lead them to feeling blamed and criticized. The more you talk, the more frustrated you both become, and the less likely it is that you’ll actually have sex.
Sexless marriages are more common than you think
When you look around, it seems that everyone else is having sex but you.
For better or worse, that’s simply not true. It’s estimated that between 12 and 20% of married couples have sex 10 or fewer times per year.
Granted, you probably don’t really care what’s happening in other marriages or other bedrooms, you want to figure out what’s going on in yours and more importantly, how to address it.
how can relationship counseling help?
Relationship counseling can help you address the underlying reasons you and your partner are disconnected- both sexually and emotionally.
Many couples I see have been to the doctor or other specialists. They’ve had their hormone levels checked and discussed options for improving their libido. They are exercising more frequently and drinking more water. They’re avoiding foods high in saturated fats and taking supplements and using herbal remedies. Despite this, they still aren’t having sex.
When this happens, it often points to a deeper issue of disconnection between partners. After all, most of the couples I work with report having a flourishing sex life in the past.
That being said, there is a difference between low sexual desire and withholding sex. Both issues I can help address.
What you’ll learn through relationship counseling
Over time, you’ll discover ways to communicate more effectively with your partner. You’ll actually be able to talk about sex in a way that may actually lead to having sex instead of a fight.
When I work with couples who are struggling with sex and intimacy, we work to discover and work through any stuck points. For many women, it’s a lack of emotional connection with their partner that ultimately leads them to not wanting sex.
Many partners begin to feel as though sex is an obligation- something they have to do- rather than something to be enjoyed and shared with their spouse. When sex is just another thing on the to-do list, it often gets put at the bottom.
Through deep, meaningful conversations, you’ll discover how to make sex a priority again.
I’m ready when you are! Your revitalized marriage is right around the corner.
What If My Partner Won't Go To Counseling?
It's not uncommon for one partner to be more reluctant or even simply refuse to attend counseling. If this is the case, I typically advise partners to approach the topic in a positive way.
Partners may get the signal that they are defective or that there is something wrong with them when you say, "Honey, I think we need to see a marriage therapist."
Instead, tell your partner how important your relationship with them is and how you would like to explore ways to make it even better. If your partner is still reluctant, they are more than welcome to schedule a consultation with me to discuss it further.
It's free, and we can explore some of the common barriers and misconceptions people have about marriage counseling.
Shouldn't We Be Able to Figure This Out On Our Own?
If you're here, the answer to that is likely 'no'. It's also likely that you have tried to fix your marriage on your own. And if you got a manual for love when you got married, I'd love to get a copy.
The advice you often get is learning about how to communicate better or compromise. It's about learning to be nicer to each other or how to 'fight better'... If that's all marriage is about, then more people would probably elect to never get married. After all, I could compromise with and be nice to my college roommates...
As Sue Johnson says, "Love is not a psychotic mix of sex and sentiment..." It's so much more than that. Yet, it's simple really. Once you know that love is all about bonding on an emotional level with another human being, you can understand it. Love is a survival instinct that tells us to keep those we love and trust close by.
By knowing what love is, we can mold and shape it. It gives us a map to intimate relationships that we've never had before.
But We've Tried Couples Counseling Before...
Oh man, if I had a dollar...
70-80% of therapists say that they work with couples. Very few of them have specialized training to do so. They mean well, and some of them are helpful to an extent.
But if you really want to level up your relationship, you need an expert. You need someone with a map and a compass.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy provides me with said map. I know the destination, and more importantly, I know how to help you get there.
I've Heard Couples Counseling is Expensive...
Depends on what you consider expensive. I think Starbucks coffee is expensive (and I don't even drink coffee).
Yes, couples therapy is an investment in yourself and in your relationship. If we are talking business terms, it has an incredible ROI.
Struggling with your most intimate relationship is toxic to your health. If you and your partner are unsatisfied with your marriage, you're more likely to be sick and feel the effects of stress more intensely.
I could go on about the benefits of therapy, but I'll highlight just one- you're less likely to get divorced.
10 sessions of therapy will cost you about $2500. A divorce will cost you about $15,000; not to mention the emotional turmoil for everyone involved. How's that for preventive care?
This Sounds Great, But We Just Don't Have the Time...
If you allow your schedule to interfere with your ability to improve your relationship, I have bad news for you.
Not to mention that I currently offer evening and even Saturday appointments. You can schedule your appointments online 24 hours a day without having to worry about playing phone tag.
Stop making excuses and schedule your consultation today by using the link below.