Discernment Counseling
For Couples at the Crossroads of DivorceGain Clarity and Confidence
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You don’t have to choose between therapy or divorce
Discernment Counseling is a Better Option
The thought of getting a divorce has been weighing on you for some time. But, you wonder, “Am I making the right choice?” It’s not unusual that people wrestle with the decision to divorce their spouse for years, so you’re not alone. This is perhaps one of the biggest decisions you’ve had to make.
Maybe you don’t want to be the one who ends the marriage. You don’t want to be the “bad guy.” The truth is that you’ve been unhappy for a really long time. No amount of begging, pleading, crying, fighting with your partner has seemed to make a
difference. You’ve watched other unhappy couples, perhaps even your own parents, decide to stay together. But, they were miserable. And you certainly you don’t want that. You want a happy marriage.
You’re so tired of feeling this way. You want to leave but, you feel like a monster for entertaining the thought. You don’t enjoy your partner’s company. And sadly, you no longer feel attracted to them. When you look at them, you feel drained and annoyed.
“Is this what the rest of my life is going to be like?”
“Is this it for me, for my marriage?”
It’s time to take one last good look at your marriage
Discernment Counseling Can Help You Get Un-Stuck
You have thought about the impact divorce will have on those around you. So you know that this isn’t a decision to rush into. But how long can you remain stuck in divorce indecision? The fear of ending your marriage can be overpowering.
You feel like you have three options: marriage counseling, divorce, or stay in this hell. The last option is off the table; you know something has to change. But do you really want to go to marriage counseling? Will it even help?
The last thing you want is to waste 6 months and several thousand dollars to find out marriage counseling won’t fix your relationship. Maybe you’ve even tried couples counseling before. But, if you’re here, it obviously didn’t help or didn’t last for long. If you go that route again, you want to know that therapy will make a difference this time.
You want to be happy in your marriage. But, you’re not sure what that means.
Can you be happy AND married? Or will divorce be the easiest route to happiness for you?
You want to take a step forward toward finding joy rather than being stuck in an unhappy marriage.
You long to have confidence and clarity regarding what direction your marriage is going in.
Discernment Counseling Can Help
Discernment counseling is a unique process. This form of counseling was developed specifically to help couples who are at the crossroads of divorce.
It’s for couples who want to take one last hard look at their marriage before making a decision. Before they decide to either commit to saving the relationship or moving forward toward separation or divorce.
Discernment counseling helps couples gain an understanding of what has happened in their marriage. What issues brought their relationship to the point of divorce. Then, they will decide whether those issues can be fixed.
Because you and your partner are likely coming from two different places, one person wanting to save the marriage, the other leaning towards divorce, the conversations for each of you are unique.
Unlike traditional marriage counseling, the majority of your time will be spent in 1 on 1 conversations with the therapist.
Our objective isn’t to fix the problems in your marriage, but to help each of you better understand the issues and how each of you may have contributed to them.
Discernment Counseling is Brief- Between 1 and 5 Sessions
You’ve likely been struggling with the decision of whether to divorce your partner for a while. Longer than it would take for you to finally gain confidence and clarity about your marriage during discernment counseling.
There is no pressure from the therapist whether to stay married or not. This is your decision alone.
Discernment counseling is a decision-making process. You won’t be pushed one way or the other.
The only failure in discernment counseling happens if you don’t learn something about yourself and your relationship.
Don’t stay stuck in divorce indecision.
You’re ready to finally decide whether to leave your partner or work things out. You’re tired of being in a state of divorce indecision.
Discernment counseling can help you decide if you’re going to stay married or move toward divorce.
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From the Founder
Good Couples Counseling Helps Improve Your Most Important Relationships
Most people think couples counseling is about the relationship- communication, parenting, sex… While all of those things are important, you cannot ignore that the relationship is made up of individuals.
Your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. This isn’t a “you have to love yourself first” kind of thing. It’s deeper than that. In order to share yourself with another, you have to know yourself.
In successful relationship counseling, you can’t ignore the two (or more) individuals that create that relationship.